Category: Self-improvement

Whispers of the Winds: Listening to Intuition

One morning, I woke up and had a vision of living in Fairfield. We were living and working in the downtown area. My vision was simple but clear. We were walking from our home to our office, taking in the sunny sky. The morning I had that vision, we were living in New Fairfield, and our practice was in Ridgefield. We had begun to feel our own energy shifting, and we were continuing to follow the current, no matter where that seemed to take us. We had been in New Fairfield and Ridgefield for 9 months, and we knew it was time for this phase in our lives to be over. We knew it was time for the birth of something… but what?

I forgot to mention the vision to Teresa, and so we started going about our day. We started working on the days work and meditating, as we usually do. Our meditations that morning were frustrating. We felt as though energy was trying to move, and it was not moving. There was an energy blockage of some sort. We worked on it ourselves for quite some time, and after minimal progress, we decided it was time to reach out for help. If you cannot make the progress on your own, having trusted others around you can be helpful in keeping you steadfast on your journey. So we called and scheduled an appointment with a beautiful woman who is a psychic, clairvoyant, energy healer, and much more. She is a woman who follows her true path and graciously helps others with theirs. She has often been able to help us, and we knew with our energy block today, that she was the one to see. Although we learned many things during that meeting, we also heard a crucial piece. Our time in Ridgefield was up. She asked if we had heeded that warning from before, and we admitted we had not. We had planned to continue with our private practice in Ridgefield. Yet, admittedly, we had received multiple signs, including direct guidance form her, that our time in Ridgefield was up. Again, admittedly, it is not always easy to follow your intuition or the guidance you receive from helpful sources. We were ready though, and we knew it. This plunge was not too different from how our lives usually were. We quickly accepted that our time in Ridgefield had served it’s purpose. We accepted that we were being called to move. Our psychic then brought up the Firehouse Deli. “I keep seeing the Firehouse Deli.”

From that point, we began to talk about how the energy was changing and what we were experiencing. The session and what we had learned was moving us again. I shared the full vision I had that morning of us residing in Fairfield. So we made it official, we decided to move our home and office to Fairfield. Within one hour’s time, everything came back into place energetically, and we were back on track with our lives. We posted on Facebook about looking for a space, and a therapist reached out. She had a space next to where? Of course, the Firehouse Deli. We laughed. We met her within a few days and agreed to take the space. Immediately when that happened, we began to receive contacts from clients in that area interested in our services. We had not even begun to advertise. The universe provides when there is trust and faith and choice.

My intuition that morning was subtle. I had barely noticed what had happened. I was busy listening to my monkey mind of the day. Our monkey mind usually obsesses over various topics, such as a situation that occurred with a friend or co-worker or things that need to get done for the day. When we quiet our monkey mind, we can better hear and follow our own intuition. Intuition comes in many shapes and forms and sizes. We can receive intuition through all five senses. Intuition can be seen, heard, smelled, tasted, and felt. It can also be a combination of those five. Intuition can also be a sense of knowing – information you know with no seeming rational as to why. Intuition can be simple, and it can be complex. Intuition can tell us we need to physically move our residence, now. Intuition can tell us we need to make a phone call to someone who is in need. We can choose to listen to our intuition, and we can choose not to listen. Feed what you want to grow. Give yourself the gift of intuition.

Positive vs. Negative? What About Finding Meaning Instead?

If we focus on the negative, the negative will multiply and take over, and if we focus on positivity, the same will happen. What do you want to focus on?

Let’s take a moment for a brief note on that topic. In life, we need both positive and negative and all shades in between. Everything has value and purpose. It is our responsibility to actively engage within our lives and to gain understanding and meaning. Regardless, of your primary focus, the varied shades of positive and negative have meaning and value. Acceptance of all parts can bring us to a place of peace and greater understanding.

Both of us have a tendency to be irritated by different things, and we can become extremely bothered. Our irritations can take us away from our purpose and our calling. Imagine driving in your car, listening to your favorite song. There is a slight static noise in the background that you notice. You can decide to focus on that static, making it louder and louder. Or you can choose to focus on your favorite song. In this situation, there is a choice of focusing what brings positive emotions versus negative. Now think of this example, you can think about how you spilled coffee on your shirt before you got to work and how awful it is that you have a stain. Or you can think of how beautiful it was that your stain created a connection with a co-worker who had done the same. You can decide to find meaning and purpose behind an irritating situation event or you can allow that irritation to build, contributing a grumbly, bad day.

We make the choice on how to live our lives. Regardless of whether an event feels positively or negatively, it is our choice to step beyond our irritations and bothersome emotions and find the journey that the situation brings. Imagine waking up every day and greeting the day with a sense of curiosity and wonder, regardless of your human circumstance. You can choose to have your day be as positive or negative as you would like. You can choose to find the meaning in your days.

Do you trust yourself? Really and truly?

Last week we talked about love, which sent us into a tail-spinning direction of talking about trust.

Do you trust yourself? Really and truly trust yourself?

That means no doubts, no questions. Pure trust.

And then if we extend that out, do you trust others?  Do you trust your partner?

And then if we push that out a bit more, do you trust the universe or the world around you? An easy option would be to simply say, “ya, sure, I do that.”

Are you being real? Are you being honest with yourself? It is easy to identify whether you trust someone external to you and particularly with a partner.

These are not easy questions to answer. So let’s start with the first question, how do we know if we are actually trusting ourselves throughout the day?

Try taking one day from the very start to the very end and observing your thoughts.

No judgment.

No criticism.

Simple observation. Using that same love we talked about before. When we start criticizing ourselves for our thoughts, we can turn our own selves in a tail-spinning direction of derogation.

So, if you take one day to simply observe your thoughts, what would happen?

What you may find, is that you doubt quite a bit. Not just yourself, but others. What you may also find is that you try to justify your doubt.

Well, it’s there because that person has never been someone I could trust. Do you trust yourself to know the difference between someone you can trust versus someone you can’t? There is reason to determine whether a person can be trustworthy. We need that appraisal  for our survival

You may also notice you have thoughts such as, “should I do this or should I do that? Does that person really mean it when they say…?” And so on. If you want to take this one step further, try taking a day where you address those doubt-ridden thoughts.

Remember no judgment or criticism. When a doubt-ridden thought comes up, ask yourself, do I really need this? Does it really matter? What if I were to just say I trust.

Not trusting that others and the world around you will be what you want them to be, but trusting that they are doing exactly what they need to be doing in that time and moment.

This would also be without expectations and without judgement of what others are doing. We are all in this world at this point in time doing the best we can possibly do.

Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have. What if we were to say, “we trust. We trust in ourselves, each other, and the universe. Each and every moment of each and every day,” we embody trust.

If nothing else, maybe give it a try for a day or too and see what happens. Because we all deserve our own trust.

Let’s step out from the shadow of doubt and give that shadow one giant hug of love. And say:

I trust you doubt. I trust that you’re going to doubt, because that’s what you do best. And I’m going to try something a bit different doubt. I’m going to try trust. And I’m going to trust that I will fail sometimes, and I will fall sometimes. And it will all be okay, because I’m doing the best I can.

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Love starts within yourself

We’ve been talking recently about love and how to embody the essence of love. How does one send out love to everything around them, all day?

Yep, all day, every day.

If we really tune into ourselves (our thought and feelings about ourselves and others), we tend to find that we are in a loop of continual negativistic patterns. We’ve somehow learned to do this for generations upon generations.

For some reason the negative stands out more and our focus goes to negative more fluidly which causes the perpetual negative in life. We believe this is partly due to the need for our families and our ancestors to protect us from the world around us.

There have been times in our lives and our ancestors lives when we needed protection.

We have come into a place in society where information is readily present. People are all around us and accessible.

We have the power to protect ourselves.

We always have.

Maybe it’s that we haven’t known how to use it.

We didn’t understand our abilities because we do not allow ourselves to get there. There is this push to look outside of ourselves for everything.

We do not want to outcast or dampen our use of negativistic thoughts and emotions. These can be a part of our daily lives; however, they seem to have taken a place in our lives that has gone beyond usefulness.

We do not want to encourage you being positive 24/7, that would not be human. We are encouraging you to allow yourself to be positive. Give yourself permission to see the beauty that surrounds you. Love starts within yourself then you can give to others.

So then what do we do with the negative? We understand it. We value it. We send it as much love as we’re sending out to everything else. Underneath negativity and pain, there is fear. So the next time you’re thinking, “I can’t believe he/she would do something like that” – or – “I’m just stupid sometimes” – or – “No one will ever really love me”

Try to use your own inner voice, your own inner healer, and say, “I can respect that you feel hurt and afraid, and I love you all the same.”

 

Try imagining yourself sending every bit of love you have towards whatever that thought or emotion is.

Then imagine yourself letting it go to whatever source you believe can better care for it (God,  Universe, Source, Spirit, etc.).

You deserve every bit of love in your life, and you deserve to send that out to others.

We can all choose to embody love. We have choice.

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Meditation Can Be Simple

On the journey of finding true connection in relationship with someone else, the power of meditation can be strong, yet entirely daunting. Throughout our work and personal journeys, we have heard some individuals state that one must be specifically trained in various forms of meditation to not only teach, but to practice. This did not seem right to us.

 

It would make logical sense to teach a standard form of meditation one would need to be trained in that form, and we can respect the point of view. However, there does not seem to be sound logic behind needing to be trained to practice meditation. We have heard from some individuals who are yet to practice meditation that they cannot sit still for thirty minutes or an hour in silence with their eyes closed without suddenly being awoken by their own loud snoring. (At this point, we giggle.) Some individuals state that their minds are constantly going, like Charly Chimp the cymbal playing toy monkey, so they certainly cannot sit and empty their minds out to engage in meditation.

 

Really, meditation can be simple. One of the purposes of meditation is to be present and in the moment. This means tuning into every last detail. How does your body feel? What has your mind been focusing on? How are you feeling? What is around you, if your eyes are open? And what do you see if your eyes are closed?

 

Meditation can be for two minutes or it can be for hours. It can be sitting still, standing still, lying still, walking around, jumping, taking a shower… you get our drift. You can meditate at any time of day or night and in any location. Here’s the simple version: Call your attention to the present moment. Try to relax and release any type of tension held within your body, mind, and soul and look around you. Just be present.

 

Now, we’re going to extend on meditation to include your relationship with someone else. We raised the topic of meditation today to help others understand meditation can be utilized to strengthen your relationship with another. Here’s the simple version: Try sitting or lying down next to each other and focusing your meditation (your intent) on your relationship.

 

Your relationship is what the two of you create together, your third. Set a specific amount of time to meditate. Some individuals are helped by having meditation music playing for a designated amount of time, such as fifteen minutes. This could be doing an activity as well, like going on a hike together with the intention of meditating about your relationship or your third as we call it. A meditation with two people can be powerful, because of the intimate connection already present within the relationship.

 

After the meditation, sit with your partner and communicate with each other about what occurred in your mutual meditation. What did you find was drifting into your mind? Thoughts? Images? Moving pictures? What were you feeling? Was there complete silence? Did you hear sounds? See if you can find any points where your meditation co-existed with each other. Maybe you heard birds chirping and your partner was visualizing being in the woods. Maybe you felt a rush of positive emotion that filled you with happiness, and your partner felt the same. See if you can find the mutuality of your meditation. Your third deserves that attention. To all of the thirds out there, we support you!

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